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Long Distance Relationship

Oct 12, 2008 Author: Vortrack | Filed Under: Personal | Viewed: 168

I’ve tried long distance relationship before, and it didn’t work really well. And that was my first time starting a love relationship. Maybe that time I was still immature and inexperience. It lasted less than 3 months or so. At that moment, I’m afraid of trying long distance relationship and I say I will never find a girl far away.

I think I’m currently going thru it again as Yeevon has left Malaysia to Australia for furthering her studies. It was a sad news for me at first when I heard about it. She may be back after 2 years of studies or she may thought of working there after completing her degree, so I don’t really know.

Distance never separates two hearts that really care, for our memories span the miles and in seconds we are there. But whenever I start feeling sad, because I miss you, I remind myself how lucky I am to have someone so special to miss.

After thinking a while, I cannot control someone’s future and I should be happy and proud of her every decision that she has made. And it is also good for both of us as we will have our time to build our own future. We had been together for more than a year and the most important thing in a relationship is love and confidence.

Distance doesn’t matter if you really love the person, what matters most is your honesty and trust for that relationship to work out.

Yes, anything can happen in a relationship, long or short distance, but we all need to stay positive all the time to get the relationship to work. I’m mature enough to handle my relationship now. I’m confident enough to say that I can handle long distance relationship. I shall take this as a test.

Not to say that I’m a Guru or a match maker but many of my friends seeked advise from me and I myself have helped many of my friends in their relationship as well. I gave them moral supports and listen to their hearts. I’ve joined councelling group during my secondary and that’s where I’ve learned it from, I’m really a good listener. Some of them love sharing their storied with me.

I’m willing to help for those who really needs help. That’s all for today’s article, peace out.

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12 Responses for "Long Distance Relationship"

ivy (1 comments.) October 12th, 2008 at 5:39 pm 1

This relationship is very hard to maintain. But you are right “Distance doesn’t matter if you really love the person, what matters most is your honesty and trust for that relationship to work out.” I am also in a long distance relationship and we are going to be 2 years this february.
Edrei (1 comments.) October 12th, 2008 at 7:40 pm 2

I’ve lived through a lot of relationships. Found what was my soul mate before. Lost what still is my soul mate before. Been in long distance relationships which have failed.

Today, I’m in one now and have been in it for a little less than a year.

I can tell you one thing about it. A long distance relationship is probably one of the deceptively, easiest thing in the world to be in. The secret of it isn’t just trust and communication, it’s also the ability to not sweat the little things. The ability to live life, your life, without the fuss of being too lovey dovey or standing on cloud 9.

Long distance relationship works when both sides realize the reality that they are in and deal with it accordingly. As my girlfriend taught me so long ago. There is only one solution when it’s not about you or your partner anymore, but both of you.

Take it one moment, one day at a time.

The future will sort itself out on its own.
Vortrack (318 comments.) October 12th, 2008 at 8:49 pm 3

ivy:
Ohh, that’s great, mine will be 2 years this coming January. Wish you all the best in your relationship. Thanks for sharing.

Edrei:
Thanks for sharing Edrei. Looks like you have lots of experience and furthermore your girlfriend thought you.
phing (2 comments.) October 13th, 2008 at 3:34 pm 4

hope you make it thru your LDR !

it is difficult but with constant communication via calls, sms, webcam, chat, it is possible !
Vortrack (318 comments.) October 13th, 2008 at 3:40 pm 5

Haha, thanks phing.

That’s the only way right? Unless maybe if I have the money, I’ll fly over there .
cj October 13th, 2008 at 9:17 pm 6

better save it if u have the money…its about the time for u to build ur own future….good luck
Vortrack (318 comments.) October 14th, 2008 at 2:17 am 7

I know. I will. Thanks
johnny ong (1 comments.) October 14th, 2008 at 10:17 am 8

nothing is easy but be patient with it and pray that it develops
ben (1 comments.) October 14th, 2008 at 8:06 pm 9

Long Distance relationships are a true test to a couple’s commitment and personal limits. LDRs take a great amount of effort to maintain and often people involved in them, realize that they evolve into a state of emotion that they never found themselves in before. When your partner is miles away from you, it is very easy to let things go wrong and lead your long distance romance to an early death. Some people find it difficult to bridge the distance through communication, others become overly obsessed with what their partner is doing when they are not there and as a result they spiral down a road of jealousy and suspicion. They key is balance and following some basic steps to keep your relationship healthy and strong. Check the LDR community website http://www.waiit.com
Vortrack (318 comments.) October 14th, 2008 at 8:14 pm 10

johnny ong:
Well true, nothing is easy. Thanks for your concern.

ben:
You must be a Guru or had experienced it before. Very nice of you to drop by and share your thoughts. I’ll go to that website for sure. Thanks.
curryegg (2 comments.) October 17th, 2008 at 8:59 pm 11

Hello Vortrack..
It’s true that long distance is not easy as it is the hardest type of relationship to be maintained. However, if both of you manage to face this challenge and still be in each other arms after that, guess what.. you guys will be the most stable and happy couple in future.

And the keyword for maintaining this relationship is: TRUST.
I know you can do this because you love her a lot, don’t you?

P/s: Cool… you get something from the counseling programme..
Vortrack (318 comments.) October 18th, 2008 at 2:42 pm 12

Well, it’s hard to say. But I believe that I could maintain this relationship .